Laing said that: “there is a culture of confessional memoirs that I’m super-wary of.As soon as you use an ‘I’ — especially if you’re a woman — you’re on shaky ground.“All I saw was loneliness and anxiety and frozen eggs and criticizing men.I wanted to find an independence from that.”When Ms.Witt’s book, published by Farrar, Straus and Giroux. Weigel, 31, offers a different angle on love — and a different sensibility. Weigel was compelled to delve into the moment it all began. Particularly potentially titillating subjects,” Ms. Weigel later wrote in an email.“It’s this weird double bind, isn’t it: On the one hand, it’s as if editors and readers don’t trust young women to know about anything other than their own lives.And then on the other hand we are often asked — structural sexism asks us — to speak for all women, any time we write.These authors share something else, besides subject matter: They are women.Their books are a departure from the raw, unfiltered confessional writing that the internet seems to have fostered in recent years: inward-focused pieces on abortions and addictions and affairs we have gotten used to clicking on, or past.
Witt, who has written for the London Review of Books and The New Yorker, and is a contributing editor to T: The New York Times Style Magazine, recalled thinking that “technology had changed.
Her past books, including “The Purity Myth” and “Full Frontal Feminism,” have been essayistic and polemical.
But she, like so many of her feminist icons, invokes that old mantra about the personal and the political.“As a culture, we’re only comfortable with women’s sexual stories being told from a male point of view,” Ms. “It’s not that we’re not comfortable with women’s sexuality — we see women’s sexuality plastered all over ads and movies and television shows.
The result is her book, “Future Sex,” to be published Oct. Along the way, when she would talk about what she was working on, “certain editors — male editors — have commented on my ‘memoir,’” said Ms. “An editor said to me, ‘It seems like every woman has to write about this at some point.’ Um, yeah, because it’s one of the most important things about being alive right now?
”It requires only a glimpse at bookstore windows to notice the phalanx of young authors challenging the idea that dating and sex aren’t serious enough topics for certain kinds of writers to engage with.