Women love dating
Or, the guy who talked obsessively about being 5'6" but really, really wasn’t.
My digital dating journey was not the effective, empowering experience I hoped for.
Many openly critiqued us for acting “like men” and I was ghosted, sexually degraded and subjected to violent language by men who resented me or what I represented as a feminist.
This could make digital dating experiences less of a bell jar and more of an equitable mess.
Just as female worker bees do the heavy lifting as they care for larvae and their hexagon lair, Bumble women perform the initial dating labour by extending invitation after invitation to potential matches. Sure, there was some short-lived excitement, but much of my time was spent wondering if they would respond.
Bumble men, much like male bees, largely sit and wait for their invites to come. I like your photos, they’re attractive and interesting. Only 60 per cent of my opening lines were answered and I met just ten men in five months, which is a nine per cent “success” rate.
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