Shes dating someone else
After a few weeks or a month, I’d check back in with her to see where she is (if she hasn’t already gotten back to you) and move ahead accordingly.
If she stays exclusive with her other friend and is moving toward marriage, then bless them and move on.
That’s great news, and she should be affirmed in that. She might respond right away, or she might need time to process.
Either way, you’ve done all you know to do, and you can be at peace with that.
There’s simply no better way to make sure the message you have in your head and heart gets communicated as clearly as possible. This is something that requires the whole person — facial expressions, body language, voice inflections — you get the point.
Recently, after returning from school, I found out that she’s dating another guy from our church.
When you get together, remember that as difficult and maybe counter-intuitive as it seems, you should do your best to dial down your emotions when sharing your thoughts.
Obviously, your emotions are involved in the whole thing, otherwise, you wouldn’t have written to us, but they can sometimes cloud the issue and distract from what you want to accomplish.
It’s funny how things never really turn out the way you thought they would.
Reality is different from our expectations, and most of the time that doesn't really bother us.