Pretty girls intimidating guys
Being told “You’re too intimidating” is incredibly aggravating to women.After all, women are encouraged to be assertive, accomplished and independent; being told that they’re “intimidating” sounds like they’re being told to take all of that back and pretend to be something less than what they are. Are geek guys finding a woman’s accomplishments to be somehow threatening? Because “intimidating” is so subject to personal interpretation, I thought it was best to go to the source: geek guys.He may feel as though he’s going to have to put on a performance in order to keep up with her.He may be overwhelmed by the force of her personality and worry that he will be forced to be the inferior partner in the relationship.Wide smiles that reach your eyes (the “Duchenne Smile”) and open, welcoming body language can make a shy or introverted guy feel more welcome.Showing genuine interest or honest appreciation in his accomplishments or hobbies can also help him overcome feelings of “What could she possibly see in me?Or he may just be the sort of person who prefers a quieter, demure, more “feminine” personality. While there are plenty who can appreciate an outgoing partner – one who would compliment them, be the yang to their yin – more are likely to feel steamrolled by someone so dominant.A shy guy, even one who wishes women would be more assertive and take the initiative, can have a low threshold when it comes to directness and energy.
Many guys – especially introverts – can find this upsetting or discomforting.Some were tomboys growing up and take pride in being one of the guys.Others were late bloomers or women who have had few female role models in their lives. She’s well educated, with a rapier wit and a willingness to use it. And yet, Friday still remains the most lonely night of the week when she sees all of the happy, laughing couples making plans, having romantic dinners and enjoying the sex while she’s at home with Fringe on the DVR and a bottle of Malbec breathing in the kitchen. Well, whenever she’s interested in a guy – a guy who’s worth her time, because what’s the point of having standards if she’s not going to stick to ‘em? She’s done it all; dating sites, meeting guys at cons, the comic store, chatting up friends from class and at work.