Dating at midlife what you need to know
” except replace “mother” with “soulmate.” After six months of celibacy, there were itches that needed scratching and an ego that needed boosting, so I decided to rip off the proverbial Band-Aid and throw myself into the world of dating.Small snag: I hadn’t dated since the ’90s, not since Bill Clinton was impeached and the Goo Goo Dolls were a thing. I had done some online dating back then, on a site called Swoon.com, when you were lucky if a photo of you existed on the internet.There seem to be two types of people when it comes to dating in midlife: those who are the proverbial kid, having fun while looking for the pony in the pile of…well you know what, and those who consider it a necessary evil to be avoided, sometimes at all costs.Much like a financial portfolio, think about how you invest your time now; then reconsider how much time and energy you actually want to invest in each area of your life.As we age, we are more certain about who we are rather than former stages in life where the focus was on who we wanted to become.What are the things that are present when you feel and look your best? Take a visit to the make-up counter, hair stylist or boutique and treat yourself in a way that makes you feel good about how you present yourself. Research has shown that those people who understand and pay attention to their physical, emotional, spiritual and cognitive needs feel more energetic and report higher levels of happiness and life satisfaction. We’ve all lived long enough to know that having expectations of how people will act towards us and how we “should be” tend to be an excellent predictor of disappointment. It’s no wonder many dates end on that note or something close to it. What I don’t advise is to go to that first date with hopes like: “This might be the one: he sounds perfect on paper and my friends say we are perfect for one another—I hope I don’t screw this up! This scavenger hunt of information can even be shared with a date.
There’s no one definitive event that ended my marriage of 17 years.If you’re thinking about putting on your big girl pants and diving back into dating, here’s what you should consider.It’s important after a major breakup to take time to heal.But how to date in the era of eggplant emojis and Snapchat attention spans, when everyone is a Google or Facebook creep away?I hesitantly waded back in, creating a Tinder profile with encouragement from my BGF (Best Gay Friend) and regularly typing the phrase, “Am I ready to date yet?