Black girls dating outside their race
Before everyone gets to mingle, three of the men meet with Iyanla to talk about why they avoid dating within their race.
To camera, the men explain themselves with unflinching honesty.
Michael says his artistry and music have caused black women in his family and neighborhood to think that he's "weird." And Koro says his "God-fearing" ways have been a turnoff for black women he's come across.
After hearing the men's experiences (and, as the above clip shows, challenging some of their notions), Iyanla thanks them for coming to the House of Healing.
Here are the numbers from 2009–2014 — view each graph below to move through time. While we hope to help daters look beyond appearance and connect on a deeper level, there is an evident trend showing that race is a factor for many individuals, and in a consistent way. The biases shown in this data tell us about how individuals in our society factor in race when interacting with other individuals. Anytime you’re meeting someone new for the first time.
This might say more about the cultural biases passed down in our society than individuals within it.. This data forces all of us to examine how others view us and how our own internal racial biases cause us to view others. These biases can extend to any situation that’s similar to a first date. We hope that the next time you’re in one of those situations or are meeting someone new on Ok Cupid, that you are able to think about this data and how it applies to you.
They like to place that strong personality on you, and sometimes, you just kind of like, you know, 'Stay in a woman's place.'" Speaking with Iyanla, all three men dig deeper into how these preferences formed.
I’ve spoken to my guy friends (all Caucasian) and their feedback is: it’s rare that they meet black women (let alone attractive ones) and while they’d date one, they would never settle down and have children!
They either stay within their own ethnicity or date white women. " And each time, the Korean points them to this old post, which has been the most popular post on this blog for a long time until the dog meat post overtook it this month.
I know that me being African-American maybe somewhat of a disadvantage, yet I'm not like most black women, I'm not loud, "ghetto" or vicious , I enjoy watching anime, listening to Kpop / Jpop music and studying Asian cultures. (But, for the record, the third most popular post is about what the word "oppa" means -- which is another mainstay for those infatuated with Korean men.) But over the course of receiving hundreds of such questions, the Korean noticed a trend: by far, black women were dominating the number of questions about whether Korean/Asian men would find them attractive.
After a busy day of revealing exercises and emotional sessions to explore what's really at the heart of their anger, the women of the House of Healing retire indoors to relax before attending a mixer at the house with some surprise guests.
Those guests include four black men who do not date black women.