Advice on dating someone whos divorced
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They are flesh and blood, and those children need their parents.
So whether your spouse will have full or part or no custody, there will be times that they will be called on to take care of something child related.
You need to be okay with that cutting into their time with you. If they are taking the plunge to get married again, then they obviously value marriage in some way.
It will still be very special to both of you, but just be ready for it to be different than you have been expecting all these years.
If you’re doing a household chore, on vacation together, or worse—being intimate—will your spouse ever slip and say, “Well, my first spouse did things this way…” If that happens, how will you feel?
Talk about appropriate ways to handle the situation, or you may end up feeling resentful and second rate.
Even if you don’t come into the picture until years later, there may still be hard feelings, and some power struggles between your new spouse and their ex and maybe even you, as the ex may feel like they have been replaced or you are encroaching on their children’s lives.
Your spouse-to-be was married before—so does that mean they will always compare you to their former spouse? Obviously you are a different person than their first spouse, but it will be hard for them to not compare someone they spent their life with.